Those with young children...

[SoCo]

Hi. Just seeking some advice from those of you with young kids. My D4 has an awful time going back and forth from the visits with her dad. She cries when she leaves, because she doesn't want to go. Then, when I get her back, she cries because she misses her dad. When she is with her dad, there are lost of other kids there (because they stay at his mom's house, he doesn't have a place of his own... ugggg) and some of his brothers girls are horribly behaved.

Then, D4 comes back showing these behaviors and using language, phrases that she sees there from the cousins that are unacceptable in my house. She usually throws fits, screams and cries and barely talks the night they come home, just points and throws fits. I feel so bad for her. I know she is only 4 and all that is a lot to process for her little head.

I also know that she doesn't have a grasp of the time and when two weeks are and when she will see her dad again.

Any ideas for easing these times for her? I know it's not her fault, and yet her behavior is soooo frustrating when she acts like that.

I have thought to make her a little calendar so she can see the days and keep track of them.

Any other ideas?

My S9 does fine and doesn't have any of those issues.