Yes. The touching base chit chat gets maddening.


I think you are correct. After he files (if he files), he will keep contacting you.

Then, if you allow it, his depressed rumination will focus on whether of not you should have D'd and blaming it in some way on you.


You and your R has become the "reason" for his depression.

How could he give that up, even post-divorce?


You're going to have to take it away from him and make him do it alone or point the obsessive unhappiness elsewhere.


After you D, he has gotten what will bring him "happiness" and it's not your job to babysit the fact that it won't.


He's free to get his a@@ to the dr. or therapist EVERY DAY OF THE WEEK.