My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

I have to toss in a quick update here.

last night was D14's 8th grade graduation, an event I have obsessively worried about and dreaded for months. and it went unbelievably well!

the only x-in-laws who attended were D14's grandparents. I decided I would just see how they handled it and respond appropriately--and I was immediately invited to sit there in the front pew with xH, new gf, and his parents. we definitely got some weird looks thruout, but it was far, far more comfortable than I would ever have anticipated. (this gf, btw, if you haven't been following along, is not the one involved in the breakup of the marriage; she is relatively new (3 months?) and D14 likes her a lot; she's very appropriate and a very good advocate for D14; we have met at a few different events and it's been fine.) after graduation was over, we were saying our goodbyes, and x-FIL hugged me and began sobbing. told me how much he missed me, how painful this was for him, how much he has cried over the past 2 years, how he can't believe what happened, how he's so sorry for my pain--and please come and visit anytime. at that point, of course, I was weeping openly as well.

I've had no contact with them since before the bomb over 2 years ago; they have gotten on my nerves for years. however, this was such a moment of grace and reconciliation, and such a powerful healing moment for me. this has been an overwhelming week--and in a very powerfully positive way. I am absolutely exhausted and honestly...I can hardly wait to see what happens next! as one wise canine-type poster phrased it for me, I'm moving from grace to grace right now.