I calmly said that staying together for our son doesn't sound healthy.
My H was looking for too much too early from me also. If she is honest and if she's not having an A, then that is probably all she can do today......but a step forward every day will get you where you want to go.
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She said that's all she can offer right now. Is this normal behavior????
It certainly was normal for me. I just could not pour myself into the MR and show what my H wanted to see. I had to have time. He had to be patient.
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Is it healthy to stay in a loveless marriage for your child?
First of all, you must stop looking at it as a "loveless M". It has problems, yes.....and it will take time, yes.....but with you looking at it from the POV that it's loveless sounds like you are just thinking of yourself. I know you aren't...but that is how it would sound to her. If she is on the up & up here, then she feels that she's doing this for her son and the least you could do is begin with that much. She knows that is not what you "want" right now, but it would be better than just divorcing b/c she can't feel what you want her to feel, right? (Like I said, this is if she is really out of the EA.)
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With the right help will can she regain that trust in me and fall back in love?
Yes, but you have to stop putting pressure on her. If you really become the man she fell for the first time, then it can happen again.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
