I was where you were at a year ago. My story did not end well as you will find most don't on this website. There are some happy endings, most are not. What this place does, however, is prepare you over time for what may come. You will get tough love advice, the caring advice, the stay strong advice. The fact is you will go through almost the seven stages of death for lack of a better metaphor. Your story is so similar to everyone's here you will look for story after story looking for a happy ending. They are hard to find. But what you will find at a certain point is your stregnth. Whether you want to or not, it just comes to a point where you can say, I can do this with him or without him.
I had the classic MLC wife. Picture perfect life, three sons, no financial issues...Then the bombed dropped. Your controlling, your this, your that, rewriting the last 15 years of our marriage..i gave up trying. She moved out two weeks ago after a year of living under the same roof. We needed to get our housing in order before we told our kids. She had a nervous breakdown the next day. She finally was able to take my sons for visitation for the first time yesterday.
What I am saying is, this is a long process. If it will work out, it will be a long time for that to happen. It took a long time for you to get here in your marriage. It will be the worst 6 months to a year of your life while this figures itself out. Therapy helps.
I will just say, be strong, don't swallow your pride too much..
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