the "I know all about you and so-and-so, and it needs to stop" one
OK, will try to post something for you later. Buried at work at the moment . . .
I actually had TWO of these with her -- the original confront when I found out about her affair, and then a re-confront, "The deceit has to stop" about 60 days later. I"ll try to update you on both of them.
You can also follow my old sitch (used to be called "Chocolateeyes", here: