I have found a good rule of thumb is when you can out with someone and there is no comaprison factor (like she is so much nicer than x when blah blah blah or I like when x did blah blah blah better)
when they are a sep entity from the person you were with, when being with them doesn't automatically generate a this is better than or a this is worse than comparison
then you know you are healed enough, settled into who YOU are, able to enjoy yourself enough
in the end you need to be good with you and who you are, not who you married or who you divorced or who you used to be or who you want to be but really just WHO YOU ARE
because otherwise the person you might be dating will be dating one of these yaywhos and not YOU..., you dig?
