"All rise"

[mulesqb]

Heal up before you date.

Rule of thumb, until you can go out and NOT talk about a previous realtionship you aren't ready for a new one.

I agree somewhat with this..BUT if you end up dating somebody who is divorced, it is a topic that gets discussed..I mean you have to deal with ex spouses if the two of you have kids, so it is part of who you are..I actually felt it was healthy to get that discussion out there and over with..

I think when it comes to the whole dating thing you will make good decisions..for me the first few dates were about feeling good about myself again..I kind of new I was doing that, but I guess I needed that..honestly the first time someone was interested in getting intimate with me I ran so fast I couldn't believe it..I clearly wasn't ready, so I took some time off the dating scene..when I got past that, it was really about focusing on what I wanted in someone..when I found someone, my circle of friends were so quick to say "good for you, that will show XW"..I can honestly say it was never, ever about that for me, and never will be..for me it's about a new phase of my life and sharing that with somebody amazing..it takes time, but when you get there you know it..

Frank, I'm really glad you had such a great weekend..even more happy things are progressing..I went through the locks thing also..I was just very upfront to my XW about it..told her we had separate living arrangements and I don't have access to her place and don't want any, I would expect her to respect that I want privacy where I live..told her I checked it with my L and was encouraged to do so.it was never an issue after that..

Strength and Honor..

Mules