well at least someone said it and I'm glad it was Greek, listen to her, you're getting this information from a woman who KNOWS what she's talking about!
You are scared of your wife, it's not attractive at all.
I won't go into all of the details but in my own situation, I did the same thing, I believed I was showing sacrifice for her happiness but let's be honest, I had been bending to her will for a very long time before that, she was used to me folding all the time, she was used to me caving in, she was always used to getting her way, this was just another example of that.
You have killed that attraction between the two of you.
How could your wife or any woman for that matter be attracted to man that is afraid of her? Is she going to kill you? Is she going to beat you up? Is she going to put you in jail?
Deal with it.
Move back home.
If she doesn't want to be with you anymore, tell her to move out, there is nothing saying that you have to move out. You know where you need to be? You need to be home, sleeping in your bed and being with your kids because that's the best place for you to be, it's the best thing for them to have both of their parents in the home with them and it sure as heck is confusing for you to be coming and going, there is no stability in that environment and you walking around playing the part of "chicken little" is only setting the stage for your kids to do the same thing when they grow up. Kids don't learn from the words you tell them, they learn from what they see/what you show them, at a very early age, you make the imprint on their brains as to how they should act, they have to model their parents, it's the only example they have to use for their own development.
Your wife wants a man she can feel secure with. She can't feel secure around a man that is afraid of her. If you can't stand up to her how could ever stand up for her if the need ever arose. How can she feel secure that you'll protect the children. You don't act like a man.
Women like Men who act like Men. Men like Women who act like Women.
Women don't like men that act like women.
You are too insecure, you're not confident, you're afraid of every action your wife takes, you re afraid of how to respond to things she does, you're indecisive, you can't lead yourself let alone show attractive leadership characteristics to your wife, you're job hunting right now and you said you were a mechanic or something like that but now you're settling for taking a job working at gas stations or supermarkets - what happened to the ambitious man you once were?
Go out there, get your job back, with another company.
If that doesn't work out, get in business for yourself, set up a business plan, work from home for the time being, advertise, get your name out there.
Do the work, get busy, get out there, get it done.
You're defeated, scared, ineffectual, insecure, low ambition, don't know what to do and you don't know where to go with your life.
The first place to start is what do you want?
Ask.
You're allowed.
What do you want? Don't worry about your wife right now. Ask yourself what you want.
Example: I want my kids to be secure in their current environment. I want to go back home and live in my home. I want to stop being scared. I don't want to be scared of my wife anymore. I don't want to be pushed around anymore. I want a decent good paying job, something worthy of me and my talents. I want a better life for me, my wife and my children. I want a better marriage. I want to be a good husband. I want my wife to treat me better. I want to treat my wife better. I want to improve myself.
The list could go on & on and for the sake of stopping myself from typing War & Peace version 2.0 I stopped right there.
So you ask yourself what you want because you're allowed to ask for what you want. Then you start spending some time thinking about how you're going to accomplish these tasks.
And you don't quit at the first sign of struggle and defeat, that's something a scared person would do. Every time you get knocked down, you dust yourself off, and get up and do it again, you put yourself out there, and don't expect it to be trouble free, expect the hit, expect to get knocked down, and always expect that you'll get back up again and keep moving forward.
- either that or keep doing what you're doing, mind you it doesn't sound very fun.
