Hey all, I was a landscaper, house painter and construction worker in college, I hung out in garages and did plenty of work on cars, and I still have to go online to figure out how to do things. No worries, it doesn’t come naturally. Good on all of you for doing it, though.
As for the forced crying, it’s the same for me. I attribute it to me slamming my feelings down for so long that it’s now hard for me to let them out. When I cry, a few tears come out and I really have to try to keep them coming. I want to cry, but instantly my head says “suck it up.” If you also have been “strong” throughout the years, this is a good time to try to get back in touch with your sensitive side. It’s hard. My H fell in love with me partly b/c I was so sensitive, but then I had to learn not to be and now I have to relearn it. It’s strange, really.
At the risk of sounding like a mom here… careful everyone. I know it feels good to say negative things about OW and H, but the karma “bus” comes for us also. Negativity comes back around. They will reap what they sow without us wishing it on them. That’s a promise, it always happens. Forgiveness is so important because until you are able to forgive, you can’t move on. And if you don’t forgive, you become bitter.
Stay sweet!
And as for ow, remember, they are one letter away from cow… although, we do need them for milk, right? I remember someone used to call them the gnat. I liked that.
