Can it be...a MLC??

[Truegritter]

I will be stuck until I break through some of what I think for me is mostly fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of the realities of where I need to change.

Yes.

You will be stuck until you move through this.

BUT you must go through it to experience it and know it and to break through the fear.

This may hurt my W and cause more friction, but I do not think I will ever be able to move on if I do not take some kind of stand, set some kind of boundaries, and list some of MY wants.

This is not the time for YOUR demands.

THAT, if I may venture, is probably part of the problem.

The STAND you take if you choose is for your M.

Boundaries are not to enforce WANTS they are to protect you.

They should have no other purpose. If they do then they are attempts to control.

ST what we are talking about here is you have to let go completely before you gain any ground here. And the ground you gain is not at the expense of W.

She doesn't have to GIVE it...

That is what detachment does for you. You begin to see a new path you want to walk that has nothing to do with the old piece of ground.

I did everything in my power to get their Mom to go to some kind of counselling and get some kind of help, but it was just too late.

THIS is the BIG one.

Are you ready?...

ALL your power...even if you are superman...all YOUR power

cannot get W to do ANYTHING.

NOTHING.

NADA.

NOT GONNA HAPPEN.

You will hear this many times until it sinks in believe me.

What power you do have is greater than the power over another.

It is in YOU.

How about doing everything in your power to save your M.

The only one you can control is YOU

How about wielding THAT power. What will you show your kids from that?

I started out where you are ST. You can read the early stages of my thread and you will recognize some of the same thoughts you are having.

I am here because you are here and since you are...

I will give back the advice given me that allowed me to move through this.

YOU can do this.