Lan, Its sad to see you so apathetic. I remember the exciting times you were energetically "Dbing" this silly W of yours while she was f'ing the OM right to the time time you crossed the heavily patrolled border with great difficulty and she was starting to go "oh Lan". You even got to the point where W was almost open to "counseling". And now this total apathy. I have to think that the apparent "successes" here are just the luck of the draw and not really built on firm ground. In all these cases the wayward or selfish spouse saw gain in staying or coming back to the M - not good enough for me. I still believe that "commitment" is the key to a good M and the biggest component of this thing called "love". And the successes here, if they lack this, won't be able to withstand other severe storms of life which may hit again later when they are in a vulnerable state. So, if you are sticking around Lan (and anyone else for that matter) I would hope that it is because you are committed according to your marriage vows, and not because of the finances or the sex or even your D.
