I agree that the D paperwork isn't all that important, compared to the emotions. You know how my sitch is turning around, and I actually REGRET that I didn't get signed paperwork done last year. It would remove some stress from our current situation, and we could just concentrate on the good stuff that's going on between us. I don't in any way think that signed paperwork would have prevented what's happening now between my W and me. If you're living separate lives, you should have a legal agreement in place. If you can pull back from the emotion, you can see how that makes sense. With an agreement in place, you're no different from when you started dating, two independent people who maybe want to get to know each other (again).
