Well I think we can make some predictions about human behavior- we know that positive reinforcement will increase certain behaviors and punishment will decrease or stop certain behaviors. The problem is identifying what is reinforcing and punishing to people!

But that is why the love languages are key. If I know that my WH needs admiration and affection, then I can compliment him on finding a great place for dinner with a kiss and a squeeze! Ideally that will encourage him to look for MORE restaurants! And if he found a bad restaurant I would not kiss him and insult him so that he wouldn't make that mistake again. j/k!!!

Just taking an intermission from my workout. Am watching "The Stepfather," a thriller about a serial killer who preys on middle aged divorced or widowed women with kids and then murders them all. Great.


Last edited by newmama; 06/02/10 04:21 AM.
me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004