Hey ST, so sorry you are here. But good for you for reaching out.
These are good people. They will help in any way they can.
I never did figure out if my h is MLC or WAW or a little of both. And the truth is, I am not so sure it really matters.
Because the truth is, this is a journey I was meant to take. And it is one you were meant to take, too.
So, we are all going to talk about detaching. It is the hardest thing you will ever try to do. Everyone comes to it in their own time. You will, too. Try not to worry if you can't do it right away.
We talk about it because the sooner you do it, the sooner you can begin your journey.
The reason I feel it doesnt matter what your wife is and these are my opinions, is that you still need to do the work.
That's something else you will hear a lot of.
So, put the focus on you and the kids. And try to figure out your part in any problems in your marriage. That's the best place to start. Once you figure that out, start to make the changes you feel you need to. But, they have to be real changes. Not to show your wife, but, because you feel they needed changing. Don't tell her you are changing. Just do it.
Next, think about things you always wanted to do, people you admire, the kind of man you want to be.
These changes take time. That's when they stick. This is a process. Slow and steady.
And remember you will be ok. You will. And this is an amazing opportunity you have been given. It might not seem like it now, but, I promise you, it will one day.
So, take a deep breath. Focus on you and your children. Dont worry about your old marriage being dead, or what your wife is thinking or anything like that right now.
