I got the bomb & he filed for d a week later. Stayed in the same house with me, he just moved to the guest room. I didn't know about ow & I admit, I had to snoop to find out. My Lawyer told me to find out, I hired a PI, but b/c ow was in another state I found out by snooping. I think b/c of all that I found out I got more in my D. My lawyer told me I did good. But my h was not open about ow, he lied & kept lying even after I knew (he didn't know I had found out). In your case, I don't think it's a good ideal, it's like the others have said, it only hurts.
