SW - We all feel for the kids, but we can't fix this. They still love their daddy, but there is anger and resentment brewing inside...I see it on my D16. They probably feel discarded same as us....no longer the center of daddy's universe
(((hugs)))
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About the kids...it is just heart breaking. When your H comes out of it, he will have a lot of talking and explaining to do.
As for now, you are really doing well (IMO) handling their comments and questions. But will they ask your H too? Surely he will call them back or drop by this week!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Yeah, the hot rod was a "surprise" that I came home to the day after Thanksgiving in 2007...
When the kids were telling me how they felt, I told them that they wanted their Dad to know how they are feeling then they needed to talk to him...I think they are scared to...I suggested that they write him a letter if they were scared to talk...I told them they didn't have to say anything unless they wanted to.
S14 did call him today to remind him about summer school and must have asked what they did this weekend...S14 said "yeah, we did some stuff" lol!!! Didn't talk long of course...
NM...I like how you put this "when" your H comes out of it...the power of positive thinking...have to admit that sometimes I have my doubts...
My good friend from my hometown called me today. She noticed that I didn't put H's name on her son's graduation card. She knew about the first time back in 2001 so suspected the same thing again. We talked for quite awhile. Not sure she bought the whole MLC thing but did say that it was my life and that I knew what was best for me and the kids and if I wanted to wait and see what happens she would stand behind me! She told me that the kids would be ok since they have such a good Mom...aaahhh!!!
Her H did from a brain anueryism in 2004 and only started dating again about a year ago. Her H suffered from visible depression and sought help for it. He kinda went through the spending the money thing for awhile. But, she seems to be doing well!
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but did say that it was my life and that I knew what was best for me and the kids and if I wanted to wait and see what happens she would stand behind me! She told me that the kids would be ok since they have such a good Mom...aaahhh!!!
First, it is true that you are a terrific Mom so that will help the kids tremendously. Secondly, it made me tear up to read that your friend said she supported you and affirmed that it's your life! I wish my friends were that way. They believe WH will follow through with the D and want me to move on. (easy for them to say from their married lives!!! )
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Thanks NM!!! There are days when I feel like a miserable excuse for a mother!
Yes, my friend is an awesome friend. We have been through a lot together over the years!!!!
Feeling blah today. First of all, it was a very sloooow day at work. Second, found out that when H came to pick up S14 to take him to summer school that he had OW with him and then came to my house to get a couple of things from the garage and oh yeah, to say hi to D11. OW sat in the car but still.
Hoping to read some encouraging stuff on someones thread tonight!!!
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Please, if you find an encouraging post or update on someone's thread, will you copy and paste the link?
"Tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it."
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I'm visiting you on your thread! I'm very sorry that you're having a down day.
Originally Posted By: confusedwife
Hey GAG...do you have a thread of your own?
You seem to be so upbeat and positive...just wondering what your sitch is and where you are at right now.
Thank you for your very kind words. Like you, I struggle from day to day....some days are better than others.....It's nice to know that my comments seem positive and/or constructive to others. Thanks!
I had a thread last fall, before my divorce, but haven't posted since then........ but your comment and a suggestion by Old Pilot have made me think about resurrecting my thread and moving over to the MLC Forum.
I'm very sorry that you're having a down day.