"he opened up about many things. it was just a lovely time, so much so that I didn't have to feel worried or insecure about the future. and for me, that's saying something! no further pressure to date; there was a point where he talked about his own feeling pressured because of being the only man in my life with any intimacy at all.."

Red flags!!! Red flags!!!

I'll admit I haven't been following along here, but when a guy is dating other women and tells you he feels pressured because you're not sleeping around too - he's a BAD BET!
(I know - recently been there, done that!)

Reread Why Men Love Bitches - seriously.

Ellie