Your boys need to learn from their father. You need to bond with them and show them what a father does. You need to be the model for them.

I haven't read all your posts, but is there an OM?

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER