I think she went ballistic about the locks because, crazy as it sounds after all this, the X HATES the idea you might be with another woman. I think that's why all the emotion over the locks.
And fib, if you go online dating, I'll share with you a few observations from someone who has looked, met one good friend and dated another guy for a year:
- Please don't say "soulmate" in your profile
- Don't just put up photos taken with the automatic timer in your bathroom. Makes you look like a potentially crazy person who has no friends. Or a married guy. Include a nice face shot, a full body shot, and pics of you with friends or family. So you look like a guy who has a life.
- Don't just use pictures from 20 years ago! Guys apparently lie about their age as much as women. Use recent photos (okay to include one younger photo with some kind of note, so they can see what a hunk you were in your thirties).
- If you contact someone you think is interesting, it's ok to chat a little online to make sure they're not psycho or have a fatal incompatibility (like politics or smoking) but be careful of developing any kind of "relationship" until you've met for coffee. Someone can seem great online and then you meet them and there's NO chemistry at all. better a casual coffee date meet-and-greet right off the bat.
- Avoid long-distance relationships!!! I foolishly got involved with a guy who lives 11 hours away. Although I thought he was great, the relationship never had a chance to be "normal", and I put way too many miles on my car. Stick to local women.
