Nothing fits

[ClingingToHope]

The family thing is touchy. My STBXW is really tight with her mom and her younger sister. They are both crazy and STBXW would complain about them all the time ... but if I chimed in then she'd ask why I'm always attacking them.

I will say I was way tougher on them than I needed to be. Perhaps it goes back to my parents divorce and the fact my family wasn't that close.

I didn't realize that when I married STBXW that meant I married her family -- warts and all. I definitely wasn't loving unconditionally.

I didn't embrace the role they wanted me to play in the family until it was too late.

That being said. I'm enjoying not having to bail them out all the time. This is a family that doesn't know how to rub two nickles together.

With Gabe. It's touchier. There's still no clear direction between you two so it's tough to set down a rule.

Truthfully, if he's not comfortable being around them then let it slide. As long as he's there for important stuff -- things where the family has to band together -- then that should be enough.