Kissak,
Congrats on your 17th Anniversary! Please don't deny your feelings though about the lack of a card. You say you know how he is about stuff but if a card is something that is important to you now is the time to let him know the importance. You have your love language and if it isn't being nurtured resentment will come to call. You are in a rebuilding phase and honesty about your needs is so very important.

Excellent that you were able to get the living room painted as you have wanted to do. What colour did you paint it?

Have you done any considering about the two of you going to counseling together to learn how to rebuild successfully? That whole thing about the OW and the BF sounds like he was baiting you. That just isn't acceptable.

Congrats again on your 17th!
*hugs*
~ swl

Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}