Without a documented change of life often times you cannot make a plan change unless it is a period of open enrollment. That is how it is at my H's company. A change of life would be death, birth, adoption or divorce.
Without a documented change of life often times you cannot make a plan change unless it is a period of open enrollment. That is how it is at my H's company. A change of life would be death, birth, adoption or divorce.
Then tell her to mail the divorce papers to your house and you will sign them and return. I would highly advise you to at least have somebody look them over but that is your call. Don't tell her you don't want to see her.
I do have a family friend that is an attny and he will look it all over for me... So were good there.
I already told her before that I don't want to see her when we sign the papers. It's only because I know I'm gonna be pretty emotional at that moment and I don't want her around for it.
She already knows.
She doesn't know WHY I don;t want to see her for the singing. But I'm sure she has an idea.
So, whatever. I guess.
And for the record, I'm 98% positive she has done no research into how to actually do this divorce, aside from talking to her "hairdresser friend".
It's only because I know I'm gonna be pretty emotional at that moment and I don't want her around for it.
How do you know that? I have consistently failed to properly anticipate my emotional reaction to so many things. Things I did not imagine would make me feel sad, did. Things I imagined would be sad, weren't.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 06/01/1007:52 PM.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Well, I had to leave work early so I could come home and cry like a baby.
I think it finally hit me today, after 5 months, that my marriage is over. My wife is gone and she is never coming back. I hate living in the apartment we shared for 6 years. I hate being reminded of her at all times everyday. I think I was able to decently cope with things up until now because I had a lot of hope and believed deep down that her and I would be able to work this out.
That hope is dead, and I feel f^cking awful.
I have no idea what to do now. I don't even know what I want anymore. I find myself daydreaming about us getting back together, then remembering that I can't take her back now after finding out about the other guy(s) shes been with during the separation.
I hope it's uphill from here, but judging by her response today she is very ready to divorce me and move on.
Why don't I feel the same? After how much she has betrayed me and hurt me, why can't I hate her like I want to?
