Libby, Depression has withdrawal in the mix...this may not be the dark withdrawal that we refer to. Depressive people lose track of time and are focused only on what is in front of them at any given moment. It's too much of an effort to keep in contact w/others. If the OW is still in the picture...well...there's still replay to consider.
They go through periods of no contact with anyone and then during moments of clarity, will touch base again and then disappear again. This will happen for quite some time until the really deep, dark depression takes hold of him. I gather that this particular depression hasn't hit him yet. You are looking for clues to where he's at and unfortunately, he's still playing in replay.
Leave the analyzing at the door for a while and focus on you and your children. What are your plans for the summer. The less you focus on your h, the better it will be. A watched pot will never boil...and this came be applied to MLC as well. The more you analyze the more frustrated you will become and with that comes impatience.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
