-I didn't look for work for about a month after I lost my job. Looking back I think I was depressed (not sure, never have been before). I was rather irresponsible off and on throughout our marriage. I had completely unrealistic plans. There are many other issues as well.
Something about this rang a bell. What types of unrealistic plans? How unrealistic?
How were you irresponsible?
That house is your home too, and I'm of the opinion that if she is the one that wants to split, she should be the one to leave, provided all things are equal.
Are you in counseling?
Job loss is a tremendous blow to self-esteem. It's conceivable that you were depressed. That it took you a month to get motivated to finding a job, and are still jobless, says something about your state of mind. Nothing to be ashamed of, but something to explore.
Maybe she is seeing this as you just being "lazy" and/or "irresponsible." But, maybe something else is at work, here.
