I'm just scared all the time.

[TimeHeals]

I was asked to go. I left with the hope that if I didn't fight to stay anymore, she could want to have me come home. I stayed against her wishes for almost 6 months, it wasn't getting us any closer to each other. She would find excuses to stay away (work late or a night out with her friends). She wanted to avoid me so much she was separating herself from our kids. I decided to not force her to make that decision anymore.

So you did it to make her happy and more comfortable and so she'd have more time with your kids?

I think puppy would tell you appeasment doesn't work.

It's good to be nice (so long as you don't let open disrespect go unchallenged--healthy boundaries are good). Why couldn't you do more around the house and spend more time parenting when you aren't out looking for jobs?