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IDU,

Don't lose your focus whatever you do. It is good that you did find some information on continued communication between W and OM.

However, I still think that you should give MC an honest try. Do not look for alterior motives from W. Do watch for indications that the MC is focused on the relationship and not just one person. My MC was not interested in helping us D but helping to keep the M intact. He did focus on us together. We also had a woman counselor there too. Also he had her sign a contract to work on the M. It did not work out for us, but keep your "hopes up" for you and your family.

It is not always obvious with the MC if the spouse is genuine or not in saving the M, but there will be signs I am sure here and there. Just let things happen at first, but keep in your mind for anything that does not feel right. Your judgement will guide you.