He's just fishing around for attention right now. Don't bite.
As for exposing, personally I don't know how much good it will do. If he has the addictive compulsions like you've descibed, he's just going to do it again or strengthen his bond to the OW.
It seems like ignoring him is getting you more of a response than anything else. Stay strong and don't respond to him. If you need to respond to him, just answer with yes...no type answers.
ok....will not bite today. Tomorrow? I do want to let him know that I know and I do want to call this OW and let her know that I am his wife and to respect our marriage.
As far as exposing to his aunts and uncles....up there in the countryland where he is...it is his safe haven.He has escaped to there. Even if his aunts and uncles do not outright say something, they will make it uncomfortable for him to go to their houses, to bring OW there. I want to burst his bubble that by him being up there, everyone will just forget about me.
After all of this, I love him, as foolish as that sounds. He went into a downward spiral when he started using almost 2 years ago(and I believe it has to do with H losing his job, his mother announcing divorce, my dad getting sick all at the same time) but I married him for better or worse. I pray to God he will, and I know he can only do this on his own, realize he needs help. Realize he needs to speak to a therapist. Realize he can't just escape.
M:27 H: 33 M:10/07 T:9 yrs H moves away for drug recovery: 3/2010 ILYBINILWY & wants D:5/02/10 Confirmed OW:5/21 Told MIL:5/25(only concerned about H's recovery) Told FIL:5/28(will speak to him)
