H is also trying to quit smoking (one of his goals ... which he told me the other day he actually wrote out!!!) and last week he went to fill his prescription and found out the insurance wouldn't cover it anymore. 180 for me: I told him he would figure it out ... so, he calls me this afternoon to tell me he went to see our family Dr. and asked him for a prescription for an anti-depressent (which doubles as a smoking cessation aide) and then filled the prescription! It was covered and it only cost him a couple of bucks! This might sound silly to some people, but him taking care of himself like this and problem solving is a total 180 for him and I am so proud of him! He is finally taking charge of himself and his responsibilities (and yep, to be fair, I did it all so it would have been difficult to step up - he still should have, but I certainly didn't make it easy!). He noticed it was raining and said he had to go (darn - I usually try to sign off first but he beat me to it this time!) and said a cheery "see you at supper".
I have to admit that I like the fact that he calls me to chat about this stuff ...
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
