Newbie.Trying with faith and hope to save marriage

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I spoke to his cousin who owns the farm where he's staying out to recover. Basically his cousin told me with his own words, not mine, that H is in a fog...that he's trying to escape reality. That he has traded addictions for other addictions. He went up there to recover from painkillers but is now drinking every night. He NEVER drank before. He has traded cigarettes for cigars. He DESPISED cigars. His cousin did not confirm the A, but since he did not deny, I know its going on. Cousin told me they sat him down Sunday night and he was telling them "How could I do this to him meaning the pregnancy" They told him it takes two and its a blessing. I suspect that is why he owned up to baby in yesterday's voicemail. Cousin told me they will continue to talk to him as he needs therapy and does not see it.


Another one of his young cousin's girlfriends told me no one agrees with what H is doing. They all are disgusted but no one will intervene as its none of their business. It's like the big elephant in the room that no one will speak about. The only hope of family intervention that I have is his older cousin with the farm


But I will call 2 of his aunts and uncles which he is close with up there to expose. They are loud lol and love me dearly and I know they will support me even if they do decide to not say much to him. I will make it as uncomfortable for him as possible!