I just wanted to give you a hug, FWIW. I remember so well how I used to get very frustrated at a few men who were trying to advise me....and what they would say was so far off who or what my H was that it was crazy. The more I tried to "explain", the more it appeared that I was just making "excuses".....and in fact, I was accused of doing that very thing.
I know you want to be happy. I know you want to be in love and to feel passion. I was so starved for passion and so turned off to my H. It got where everything about him was a sexual turn-off to me. Makes for a very unhappy R.
Just wanted you to know that I'm here and I think I really understand where you're coming from.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
