Hey Sweetie, I see you are still holding on. Don't get discouraged if nobody answers right away, weekends & holidays are slow on the board, but things will start to pick back up today.
I'm thinking I would not be very encouraging about a man such as your H. He has made it very plain that he does not want to be M to you. You said that he beat you....so I think there is no excuse for those actions and that you are much too classy to be with a wife beater! I feel that he uses you by calling and keeping your wound open and raw. It is not being a gentleman at all. It sounds to me like he wants you in bed but not as a wife. That is not respectful.
I did not know he was M before. I remember asking, but I must have missed that somewhere. Anyway, he appears to be very unstable for his age and I do not think he is to be trusted, from what you have said about him. Please, please do not agree to any of his proposals without your lawyer being completely satisfied with it. I can't believe he thought you would allow him to represent you in his own D case!! Does he think you are stupid? Well, I think you are very smart, but you have been taken in by this slick talker and did not see his real side until you fell in love with him. Save yourself and move on in your life.
You are too special to settle for this wife beater! Why should you stay with a man who talks to you the way he does? You can do much better for yourself. Please stop thinking so lowly of yourself.
You are a bright and pretty girl and you can have a great life, but I think if you try to stay with him that you will be hurt even more than you are right now.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
