newmama- Not obnoxious at all...Let me look at your list:
when we had good conversations and laughed together
*YES! I need this! But, we don't have good conversations and we don't laugh together. Ever. I'm not being dramatic.
when I saw him doing work on a project in the house
*YES! He does this sometimes, and it does give me that manly feel from him that makes me desire him more that way.....
when we cooked together
*Never done this...maybe it could
when he kissed me long and deep
*His kisses were always a turn off...wet, too soft
when he would tell me about his feelings or something personal
* This is something he is working on....if he could do this, it would make a difference.
when he would tell me things he appreciated about me
*YEs, he has gotten better with this through the years but it sounds mechanical coming from him so it doesn't necessarily give me the desire I need.
when we would travel together
*We don't travel.....but that would help a lot. I know Hope4us travels a lot and it helped him a lot. We just don't have the funds for that. We go camping, but not the same.
when we would have a fun date- do something new
*If we could do this, again, it would have an affect. When we are out it is awkward. He is socially inept.
M 39 H 39 1 son, 7
Multiple affairs before/during/and after separation, came clean, went to Retrouvaille, forgave each other, Piecing for over a year, same problems exist, back to counseling
