whatdidido has changed to whatamigoingtodo

[newmama]

whatami- do you even remember what would cause you to desire your H? I was attracted to my H but sometimes felt no desire for him and didn't know why. Over this whole traumatic affair, we ended up learning each other's emotional needs and love languages. Well obviously that wasn't enough because he is still with OW but my point is that now I can identify specifics so I can determine what I need in the future. Here is a list just to help you jog your memory...

here's what used to make me desire my H (and these things did not happen all the time!):

when we had good conversations and laughed together
when I saw him doing work on a project in the house
when we cooked together
when he kissed me long and deep
when he would tell me about his feelings or something personal
when he would tell me things he appreciated about me
when we would travel together
when we would have a fun date- do something new

NOW if any of those things didn't happen that day AND I wasn't in the mood, then I did not desire my H. (sometimes I would just be in the mood and I could predict when based on my female cycle)

is this list helpful at all? If not, sorry to be obnoxious!