"All rise"

[faithisbelieving]

To All: I think it was a blessing that the first major holiday went to me. I had them thru Monday night and it was WONDERFUL. However, there are always 2 sides to the coin. I will get them tonite and tomorrow for dinner then a long stretch without them. Almost 6 days.

As to the issue above, I called XW and explained and she actually DID help to iron this out with S9. We had a long talk and actually had a discussion (knowingly) on speakerphone while they were with XW.

Now..not sure I understand the dynamic of the following:

On Saturday, I had the locks changed. XW went nuts. She actually drove by on Saturday, unannounced, which bothered me but I said nothing for now. I let her in to get some things out and she started SCREAMING at me:
-that I was making this difficult
-that something is up and I am probably going to take the house off the market (not...legally I can't anyway)
-that she has a financial interest in the house and she was going to call her attorney (oh geez, here we go again)

She called me back soon after and started screaming at me again.

I hung up.

The following texts:

XW: Hanging up on me and still refusing me to have a voice will never help us to get to a better place. In fact, the FIB way is what destroyed us.

Me: Won't be screamed at again...the XW way

XW: That's what one has to do to be heard amongst the FIB clan to try and be heard. You never knew me at all

Me: You're right...never knew the real you

XW: What a shame. You lost out on the best there is.

Me: So did you XW

Ugh. I realized that that was turning into a tit for tat.

Ironically, XW has her own 3 BR house now. I don't have the key to it. The house is in my name and she vacated. So, when I change the locks, BAM: I'm an a$$hole again.

I feel so much safer and secure tho'. I don't think it's right after she moves out that she can have free access to my home where I live.

So, over the weekend:
-we had a another little family BD party for D7 at my sis's
-S9 had two sleepovers, one at his friends and one over my house
-we hung at my sister's pool one afternoon
-we saw Shrek 4
-S9 played in his All Star game
-we shot mini golf and later have a huge baseball game in our friend's backyard
-I replaced and setup a new Xbox system for him.

I will most likely try one of the online dating services next. I am NOT a bar person and I REFUSE to hang out at one of the steak restaurant bars on Thursday nights and line myself up as a target.

Transitions.

Mulesqb....amazing to see you here and thanks. Feel free to help me navigate thru this new period of early divorce.

FIB