Allen- That's just it....I don't know if there is anything he CAN do specifically to bring those things out in me....I tend to lean toward the fact that sometimes things just need to be there.
You asked what I need him to do....My list said those things. The fact that they are not specific mini actions does not make them less significant. I can't make my H have a personality, or make him desire me, or make him laugh sincerely.......he has to do that on his own.
Lotus- I do love my husband, and that's why I'm still here. I'm just afraid it is not the love I should have for him. There is something missing. He's almost robotic...can't think of a better way to say it. There has been no sex since we "got back together". And, sex prior was almost non existent as well.
Saffie- No, my H didn't come from an affectionate family at all. If anything, we both have learned that his upbringing has everything to do with the way he is now. It is what is being brought up in counseling. Right now he is suppose to tell me his feelings at least once a day and I'm suppose to listen without anger. This alone is hard for him, I guess. I may be rewriting history a bit.....I do love him....more like a family member or good acquaintenance, though.
Ok, I'll send this and then get to Allen's last post.
M 39 H 39 1 son, 7
Multiple affairs before/during/and after separation, came clean, went to Retrouvaille, forgave each other, Piecing for over a year, same problems exist, back to counseling
