Doing good atm folks, and thanks for the messages. Found excuses to hit the couch over the weekend in order to avoid the problems sharing the same bed sometimes pose.
I think I first need to stop being so nice about how our future is going to be post M1. I have actually been offered a position in the basement (aka dadland) in order to help keep the house afloat while W moves on with her life. This is oh so tempting, but I think for at least one reason that is not sound. I want to be near the W and for the changes I am making to be in her view.
If I am making them for me only, and I am trying to think of it that way, then proximity really does not matter, but I do have the kids there as well. W is a good Mom, if a bit removed and I agree with keeping the house for financial reasons as well as a homebase for the kids.
She has made it clear, however that I am only there to help keep up the house payments and bills. If I were to go, the house would soon be in distress. If I stayed, I could keep it afloat, but I have avoided arguing this logic, because I have been walking on the egg shells traversed by so many here on the board.
This is the big decision right now. Stay put and be near kids/W, or go out on my own and let her sink/swim, taking my name on the mortgage and the kid's homebase with her. I also wonder if I am in the basement, do I just ask what rent is and add that to child support and let it go from there? We could split bills/debt and start working on getting our seperate funding in order while I hit the gym (broke leg/dislocated ankle on Christmass Eve and just getting free of brace now), and focus on school/work in order to get myself in order.
It is just a big flippin mess atm with so many layers of crap that the W seems to think will unfold neatly like some wonderful rose.
Anyway, no blubbering today when reading your posts, so that is a good start!
