Thank you for your kind words about my D's. They are truly the best and worst of both my H and me. I like to see the best parts in them and encourage that, but sometimes I see something that I don't like in myself and let me tell you it is really a motivatior for me. Lol.
My D's and I like Lifehouse alot too and just saw them in concert. They were really good. I really like "It is what it is" off that cd.
I get what you're saying about the team thing. I think that some if not most of the things we had in common with them and mattered to us still do. They just don't want/can't to see it.
What you said about giving your H a way out resonates with me big time. Truth is, he's always had that though.
You hang in there. You have so much strength that I know you will use it in positive ways for yourself and the kids.