This is such a change for you! I remember you used to say how much you loved your husband. It shows how frustration can change your perception of your spouse. I know when we were having trouble, I thought my H was the most boring human being on earth. I can't say exactly what changed that for me, I know that it wasn't just one thing. I think if there is no sex, then it isn't a full reconciliation. I don't see how you can reconcile without that full intimacy.