Hey! I guess I was thinking of my adult life with WH. A reason to prepare a beautiful meal to share with WH alone or with friends, my best friend to go to a favourite restaurant with, a husband to share every minute of this new life with.....ya know, the 'adult life' I was meant to be living.
My baby is so easy at the moment (sleeping 3hr stretches), I reckon I could start to do one or two normal things across the week. I guess that's it.. I miss my companion and best friend. Voila.
NM, are there people that still don't know you and your WH are separated? After all this time?
Interesting comments about how men like to see us as the Ultimate Nurturer & that is breeds affection....But I would like to be Sexy Ultimate Mother, ha! As for the weight, I've always been a little plump but after my stressful pregnancy I have dropped a size or two. I have lost my bottom which I am rather sad about, and have not seen my legs this skinny since I was 20! I am far from underweight though, and the shedding has done me good as I cannot lose weight easily.. I have never been the diet type, and whne I lose considerable amounts it is usally a sign that something is emotionally wrong with me. WH has lost about the same amount, btw!
"Now, on one hand, I see frequent visits as helpful for your WH who was on the brink of being a run-away-dad due to insecurity, right?
BUT the one card I never played in my sitch was sticking to the parenting plan and limiting WH's visits. I will never know now if that could have made a difference.Gosh at the time I kept thinking that it was sooo selfish of me to use S as a pawn, and I had to put my desires and hopes for R aside and allow WH to see S. BUT NOW I look back and see that 1) WH was the one who chose to LEAVE me and the idea of a family so 2)WH made his own bed--if he wanted to S as much as he wanted, he should have R'd with me. NATURAL consequences! ) I hate hindsight!"
^^^^ This. A balancing act between:
+ not be too available (be the WAS/show my disapproval) + allow him frequent visits to validate him as father so he doesn't run away fast or easily + put a parenting plan in place soon so I have some control and not just fulfil every one of WH's desires
