still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

just heard a funny expression "You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar" "Yeah but you can catch more with manure!"

Hmm...honey= acting sweet and taking the higher road

vinegar=NC and being angry, cold

manure= uh, s#!t happens? maybe allowing the natural consequences to take place and speak for themselves! You want to be a part time dad? Here you go. You want to try and stay friends with your S' mother? Sorry- no can do. But we can chat for a few minutes at each exchange about how S is doing (gee- just like I would ask a daycare provider about how S did! Glorious!) Here is the crap you dealt yourself, WH!