You have a choice in how you interact with your former spouse and his family. Your in-laws have a choice in where they live, who they see and their reasons.
Although your note voices a beautiful sentiment and letting go.. sharing your thoughts... wouldn't saying, "Whatever works for you, works for me." make it easier all around. Choices they make with their children, choices in where they choose to live.
And if the siblings of your former spouse feel forced to interact with you, then they have a choice, too.
I've found "Whatever works for you, works for me." comes in very handy with my extended family by marriage.. now by mutual choice. It puts the ball in their court, gives you safe boundaries and drops the rope.
