Running out of time.

[ClingingToHope]

Get your financial house in order so that you can save to take your sons to Disney yourself. I haven't totally figured out what to do together and separate. We did D7's birthday together last summer. For D11's birthday this winter we did it separate.

At mediation, STBXW said she'd like to do Christmas together. The mediator looked at me and I said "I don't know. I'm not sure where I'll be in six months. Part of me thinks that STBXW wants to play family when it's convenient to her."

I can imagine getting together for things here and there, but doing some big family trip together? No. That'd be too weird and, in my case, since the girls are 7 and 11, they'd see that as a sign we are getting back together.

I know this is little consolation, but your sons are going to grow up feeling your life is normal.

If it were me, no way do I do a long trip with an ex or soon to be ex if there was an OM in the picture.