still separated, headed for D?

[flowmom]

So he could very well be waiting for one of us to follow through so he doesn't have to decide.

I wouldn't be at all surprised if this is the case. But I would be the "going, going, gone" girl, not the "ultimatum" girl. I know you know that .

I really admire your self-confidence and belief in your path newmama. I also think that visualizing and meditating is very powerful. When I ask for things when I'm chanting, though, I like to keep things more general, in case the Universe has a better idea of what I need in my life than I do . So I ask for love, I ask for a "higher life condition" for everyone in my family...but I don't specify the HOW of what that would look like. In my mind, reconciliation with H would be the "best" thing, but as time passes I feel less and less sure of that as his actions underline his cowardice and weakness.

I think it's good that you're still doing DB goals and it seems like your strategy is yielding the hoped-for results. Just to be clear, I don't blame you for continuing to DB.