working with addicts has taught me that an addict can NEVER just use and someone who uses to escape is an addict

that being said

this is your life Shelbel and how you live it is up to you, not to me or anyone else

what you can deal with
what you can't

that was the hardest thing for me
that there weren't any clean answers, you know
if A then B

life is about the gray areas

don't get sucked in

I used to make a reality check (like I wrote it out so I could read it) that had TRUTHS written on it so when my ex would start and I would feel all topsy turvy I could actually look at it and read it...it made it solid for me