Won't leave OW

[newmama]

marie pleeeeeeease listen to Puppy! I wish I had the knowledge he is giving you way back when.

I remember wanting to "trust" and resented being a babysitter of sorts by demanding he was trandsparent and "spying" on him to double check his facts. I thought "if he truly wants to reconcile then he won't stay in contact with her. If not, then I don't want him."

yeah right--I did not know that an affair is an addiction! If I did, I would have felt like demanding transparency and snooping was helping him to quit his addiction!

Help your H by being tough- help him quit his addiction!