If I had to guess why she won't talk to you I would say (A) yes, there is an OM in some fashion even if it's just something she wants in her mind and (B) she views you as the obstacle to her happiness and financial well being.
I would also bet she knows she has hurt you deeply and is simply unable to deal with it. Your outpouring of love don't make it any easier for her. And while I don't think anybody should be TRYING to make things easier for a WAS I don't think there is much you can do aside from remove yourself.
