So if there's not OM, and if she's not making any arrangements to get herself ready to leave...it sounds like she is going to give you a life in limbo. Unsatisfactory. You'll need to take some steps to shake that up. Ask any of the guys on here who have been through limbo - you don't want it. Sounds like it is time to give her the "I have decided I don't want to live like this anymore" talk - where you let her know that her passive aggressive disposition against the M will not be tolerated any longer and that you are prepared to live without her if she is unwilling to turn the corner.
I still don't trust that trip to Tampa, though. Gotta tell ya.
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Thanks for your continued support on my thread. I still need all I can get.
I have to agree about "limbo". It sucks. I guess I put up with it for too long. It sucks the life right out of you. It is no way to live no matter what the circumstances. If there is no affair, that's good, but there has to be some reason for her actions. SHE has to be the one to agree to work on things. If not, you need to be clear that YOU cannot live like this. It's hard to do.
I'm finally at the point that, no matter how much I want to save my M, if she won't cooperate and work with me and be 100% committed, she needs to find somewhere else to go. When I finally told my wife that, things started to change. It may be too late to save my M, but I will be better off without her poison in my life. And, she will be the one who will shoulder the blame of what it will do to the kids. She has become a selfish, immature teenager who is only worried about herself. Who needs that in their life? Not me and not you, either.
I know it's scary, but you must be adamant about what you NEED in your M. The quicker you make up your mind to do it, the better off you will be.
