V1olin's new life without wife

[v1olin]

The hold up at this point is the splitting of the 401k and the pension. I got an email from my lawyer on thursday that was copied to my wifes lawyer that said the final decree was incomplete because it did not include the value of the pension. I told my L back in January that I would not sign a final decree without first getting these things taken care of. So, we are extremely close to the big D being final and it does not seem to bother stbxw at all. I am starting to feel like I need to go talk to her and let her know that I am still willing to reconcile but then I dont want to lose any ground that I have gained in this emotional battle.


I don't think that W is being nice in order to trick me or anything like that. There is no reason for her to do that. We have already been through it all and now we are only waiting for the end. Divorces usually do take more than a year to complete when there are kids involved.

Here is another side note... last weeek in a moment of weekness on my part I ended up talking to her on the phone aboout work(mine and hers) for about 2 hours. The next morning I sent her this text,
"Wife, I hope you are feeling better today. I had a nice time talking to you last night. I miss you."



She DID respond with this,

"I am glad that we can still talk to each other."


Then I responded with,

"You are the mother of my daughters, we will always be able to talk. "


She responded back with,

"That's good!


A year ago a text like that would not have been responded to. She is getting better but I don't think it will end the big D.