This is my first post after being a long-time lurker but I just wanted you to know that I am sorry for what you are going through. I have been there and done that. There are many similarities - 2x4 straight out of left field, three kids, hot wife partying like she was in university and then the cold behaviour after years of warmth and grace. For what it's worth I said no way to any kind of affair, but I was wrong, there was an emotional affair. Also for what it is worth we are still together, clear of the EA and much happier fourteen months later but it was six to eight months of challenges and agony.
